-Cenab-\u0131 Hak, A\u2019r\u00e2f S\u00fbresi\u2019nin 189 ve 190. ayet-i kerimelerinde \u015f\u00f6yle buyuruyor:<\/p>\n

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\u201cO\u2019dur ki sizi bir tek candan yaratt\u0131 ve bundan da, g\u00f6nl\u00fc kendisine \u0131s\u0131ns\u0131n diye e\u015fini in\u015fa etti. Erkek e\u015fini sar\u0131p b\u00fcr\u00fcd\u00fc, o da hafif bir y\u00fck y\u00fcklendi, hamile kald\u0131. Onu bir m\u00fcddet ta\u015f\u0131d\u0131. Hamileli\u011fi a\u011f\u0131rla\u015f\u0131nca her ikisi de Rabbi\u2019leri olan Allah\u2019a y\u00f6nelip \u201cE\u011fer bize sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131, kusursuz (s\u00e2lih) bir evlat verirsen mutlaka Sana \u015f\u00fckreden kullar\u0131ndan oluruz\u201d diye yalvard\u0131lar. Fakat Allah kendilerine kusursuz bir \u00e7ocuk verince, annesi de babas\u0131 da \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcy\u00fc ka\u00e7\u0131r\u0131p verdi\u011fi \u00e7ocuk sebebiyle \u015firke bula\u015ft\u0131lar. Tuttular, Allah\u2019a birtak\u0131m \u015ferikler yak\u0131\u015ft\u0131rd\u0131lar. Halbuki Allah onlar\u0131n yak\u0131\u015ft\u0131rd\u0131klar\u0131 her t\u00fcrl\u00fc ortaktan m\u00fcnezzehtir.\u201d<\/p>\n

-Anne-baba evlat ile imtihan olmamak i\u00e7in Allah Te\u00e2l\u00e2\u2019ya g\u00f6n\u00fclden dua etmelidir. \u015eayet, Cenab-\u0131 Hak kendilerine bir \u00e7ocuk l\u00fctfedecekse, onun eli aya\u011f\u0131, g\u00f6z\u00fc kula\u011f\u0131, b\u00fct\u00fcn aza ve cev\u00e2rihinin s\u0131hhatli olmas\u0131 i\u00e7in niyazda bulunmal\u0131d\u0131r. Ayr\u0131ca, \u00e7ocu\u011fun iman, \u0130slam ihsan ufkuna ermi\u015f, ibadet ve muamelelerinde dikkatli, Kur\u2019an\u2019da tarif edilen b\u00fct\u00fcn hususiyetleriyle salih bir insan olmas\u0131n\u0131 Y\u00fcce Yarat\u0131c\u0131\u2019dan dilemelidir. Evet, \u201csalih bir \u00e7ocuk\u201d talebinde, beden ve cismaniyet a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan oldu\u011fu gibi, manevi yap\u0131, kalb\u00ee ve ruh\u00ee hayat zaviyesinden de s\u0131hhatli bir \u00e7ocuk iste\u011fi melhuzdur.<\/p>\n

-Mezkur \u00e2yet, \u015fahs-\u0131 \u00c2dem\u2019den ben\u00ee\u00e2deme ge\u00e7erek fert fert, cemaat cemaat bir silsile h\u00e2linde uzay\u0131p giden, birli\u011fi i\u00e7inde \u00e7ok; nev\u2019iyeti i\u00e7inde b\u00fct\u00fcn bir varl\u0131k kadar muhteval\u0131; tutturabildi\u011finde sevaplar\u0131yla meleklerin \u00f6n\u00fcnde; kendini sal\u0131nca veya tahribata dal\u0131nca, l\u00e2net ile an\u0131lan \u015feytanlara rahmet okutturacak kadar rezil, muamma bir s\u00fclalenin fasit veya salih halkalar\u0131ndan bahsederken ayn\u0131 zamanda heyet-i umumiyesini de birden nazara veren bir \u00fcsl\u00fbp ihtiva etmektedir. Bu espri kavrand\u0131\u011f\u0131 takdirde, art\u0131k kalk\u0131p \u201cAcaba bu e\u015fler Hazreti \u00c2dem ve Havva m\u0131?.. Yoksa Kurey\u015f\u2019ten Kusay ve zevcesi mi? Veya daha ba\u015fkalar\u0131 m\u0131?\u201d demeye ihtiya\u00e7 kalmayacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n

-Cenab-\u0131 Hak, bir peygambere menfi bir hususu beyan ederken asl\u0131nda \u201ck\u0131z\u0131m sana s\u00f6yl\u00fcyorum gelinim sen anla\u201d manas\u0131na onun \u015fahs\u0131nda \u00fcmmetine ikazda bulunmu\u015ftur. Mesela; Allah, peygamberlerini \u015firkten korur. Dolay\u0131s\u0131yla onlar hakk\u0131nda \u015firk d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fclemez. Fakat, ayette \u015f\u00f6yle buyurulmaktad\u0131r:<\/p>\n

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\u201cH\u00e2lbuki sana da, senden \u00f6nceki peygamberlere de \u015fu ger\u00e7ek vahyolunmu\u015ftur ki: \u0130yi dikkat et! Allah\u2019a ortak ko\u015farsan yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n b\u00fct\u00fcn makbul i\u015fler bo\u015fa gider ve sen \u00e2hirette kaybedenlerden olursun!\u201d (Z\u00fcmer, 39\/65) \u0130\u015fte bu t\u00fcrl\u00fc beyanlarda muhatap peygamber gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcnse de asl\u0131nda ikaz \u00fcmmete yap\u0131lmaktad\u0131r.<\/p>\n

-\u015eu bir ger\u00e7ek ki, fark\u0131nda olunsun olunmas\u0131n \u2013m\u00fc\u015frikler kat\u2019iyetinde olmasa dahi\u2013 ehl-i iman da bazen \u015firke girmektedir. Bu \u00e2yet-i kerimede de belirtildi\u011fi gibi, a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 \u00e7ocuk sevgisi de bu \u015firk yollar\u0131ndan biridir. G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczde, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131za, torunlar\u0131m\u0131za Allah\u2019\u0131n birer emaneti, hediyesi, l\u00fctfu, ihsan\u0131 nazar\u0131yla bakmak yerine, sanki onlara sahip ve malikmi\u015fiz gibi bak\u0131yoruz. Hatta onlar u\u011frunda bazen namaz\u0131-niyaz\u0131 bile terk edebiliyoruz. \u00d6yle ki onlara kar\u015f\u0131 olan sevgimiz, \u00e2deta Allah\u2019a olan sevgimizden daha fazla. Yani emanet nazar\u0131yla bak\u0131p, Allah i\u00e7in sevece\u011fimiz \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131zla \u2013tabir caizse\u2013 Allah\u2019\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeden \u00f6yle bir seviyede al\u00e2ka ve irtibata giriyoruz ki, belki de fark\u0131na varmadan o z\u0131mn\u00ee \u015firke yuvarlan\u0131p gidiyoruz.<\/p>\n

-Ras\u00fbl-\u00fc Ekrem Efendimiz (sallallahu aleyhi ve sellem) buyurur ki; \u201cSizin hakk\u0131n\u0131zda en \u00e7ok korktu\u011fum husus; \u015firk-i es\u011fard\u0131r.\u201d Efendimiz, ism-i tafdille ifade ediyor ve ilk bak\u0131\u015fta g\u00f6r\u00fclmeyecek, ilk anda sezilmeyecek kadar k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fckler k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fc\u011f\u00fc olan bu \u015firki bir hadis-i \u015ferifte a\u00e7\u0131klarken, karanl\u0131k bir gecede, kar\u0131ncan\u0131n b\u0131rakt\u0131\u011f\u0131 iz misaliyle anlat\u0131yor. \u00dcmmeti hakk\u0131nda, b\u00fcy\u00fck bilinen g\u00fcnahlardan de\u011fil, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck g\u00f6rd\u00fckleri i\u00e7in \u00e7ekinmedikleri riya gibi, s\u00fcm\u2019a gibi, \u201cyapt\u0131m, ettim, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcm, kurdum\u201d gibi \u015firke s\u00fcr\u00fckleyen s\u00f6z ve m\u00fclahazalardan korkuyor. Bu c\u00fcmleden olarak, bazen evlat sevgisi bir \u015firk s\u0131fat\u0131yla kirletilmi\u015f olabilir. M\u00fc\u2019min, m\u00fc\u2019min s\u0131fatlar\u0131n\u0131 koruma mevzuunda, namusunu koruma hususunda g\u00f6sterdi\u011fi hassasiyeti g\u00f6stermelidir.<\/p>\n

-Bedi\u00fczzaman Hazretleri, her M\u00fcsl\u00fcman\u0131n her vasf\u0131n\u0131n M\u00fcsl\u00fcmanca olmas\u0131 icap etti\u011fi halde bunun her vakit vaki olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 gibi, her k\u00e2firin her vasf\u0131n\u0131n da k\u00fcfr\u00fcnden ne\u015f\u2019et etmesinin gerekmedi\u011fini beyan etmekte ve bazen m\u00fc\u2019minde k\u00e2fir s\u0131fat\u0131 olabilece\u011fi gibi, bazen de k\u00e2firde m\u00fc\u2019min s\u0131fat\u0131 bulunabilece\u011fini s\u00f6ylemektedir. Mesel\u00e2; tembellik, g\u0131ybet, yalan ve iftira birer k\u00e2fir fiilidir; fakat maalesef, baz\u0131 m\u00fc\u2019minler de bu \u00e7irkin g\u00fcnahlara girebilmektedirler. Bunun aksi de m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr; yani, iman\u0131 tatmam\u0131\u015f baz\u0131 insanlar da vard\u0131r ki, \u00e2y\u00e2t-\u0131 tekv\u00eeniyeyi \u00e7ok iyi okur, k\u00e2inat kitab\u0131n\u0131 anlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r ve ciddi bir ara\u015ft\u0131rma a\u015fk\u0131yla adeta e\u015fyay\u0131 halla\u00e7 ederler. B\u00fct\u00fcn bunlar birer m\u00fc\u2019min s\u0131fat\u0131d\u0131r ve bu s\u0131fatlar k\u00e2firde de olsa g\u00fczeldir, makbuld\u00fcr. Haddizat\u0131nda, Allah Te\u00e2l\u00e2 s\u0131fatlara g\u00f6re h\u00fck\u00fcm verir. Dolay\u0131s\u0131yla, bu g\u00fczel s\u0131fatlara sahip olanlar k\u00e2fir de olsalar, rakiplerine muvakkaten galebe \u00e7alar ve i\u015flerinde muvaffak olurlar. Buna, s\u0131fat\u0131n s\u0131fata galebesi de denebilir; yani m\u00fc\u2019min s\u0131fat\u0131 k\u00e2fir s\u0131fat\u0131na galip gelir.<\/p>\n

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Bazen \u00e7ok k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck hatalar b\u00fcy\u00fckten daha b\u00fcy\u00fck olabilir. Bilinmeyen ve tevbe edilmeyen k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck g\u00fcnahlar, fark\u0131na var\u0131l\u0131p pi\u015fmanl\u0131k duyulan ve vazge\u00e7ilen b\u00fcy\u00fck g\u00fcnahtan daha \u00f6ld\u00fcr\u00fcc\u00fcd\u00fcr.<\/h4>\n<\/blockquote>\n

-Her zaman, e\u011frili\u011fe ve inhirafa a\u00e7\u0131k ruhlar, bazen \u201cVedd, Ye\u011f\u00fbs, Ye\u00fbk, Nesr\u201d h\u00e2disesinde oldu\u011fu gibi, h\u00fcsn\u00fcniyetle ba\u015flayan bir \u00e7arp\u0131kl\u0131\u011fa s\u00fcr\u00fcklenmi\u015f, bazen de m\u00e2kule ve semav\u00ee olana s\u0131rtlar\u0131n\u0131 d\u00f6nerek yanl\u0131\u015f bir yola girmi\u015f ve do\u011frudan uzakla\u015fm\u0131\u015flard\u0131r. Merkezde inhiraf a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131 sezilemeyecek kadar k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck oldu\u011fundan, meselenin fark\u0131na varamam\u0131\u015f, fark\u0131na vard\u0131klar\u0131 nokta olan muhit hatt\u0131nda da, a\u00e7\u0131n\u0131n geni\u015fli\u011fine tak\u0131l\u0131p geriye d\u00f6nememi\u015flerdir.<\/p>\n

-G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fcn gen\u00e7 nesillerinin izdiva\u00e7, aile, \u00e7oluk \u00e7ocuk gibi mevzularda gerekli bilgi ve donan\u0131ma sahip olduklar\u0131n\u0131 zannetmiyorum. Hakikaten g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczde gen\u00e7lere bu mevzuda ciddi bir e\u011fitim verilmiyor, onlar bu konuda gerekli bilgi ve donan\u0131ma sahip olarak yeti\u015ftirilmiyorlar. Bundan dolay\u0131 akl\u0131ma geliyor ki, \u00fcniversite, hatta liselerin b\u00fcnyesinde aile ve evlilikle al\u00e2kal\u0131, muhataplar\u0131n seviye ve konumuna g\u00f6re seminerler verilebilse. Hatta devletin uygun g\u00f6rece\u011fi \u015fekilde, bu mevzu belli bir disipline ba\u011flansa, \u015fah\u0131s, gerekli bilgi, donan\u0131m ve ehliyete sahip oldu\u011funu ispat edip bir t\u00fcr evlilik sertifikas\u0131 ald\u0131ktan sonra o \u015fahs\u0131n evlili\u011fine m\u00fcsaade edilse. Mesel\u00e2 bu seminerlerde evlili\u011fin insan\u0131n omuzlar\u0131 \u00fczerine y\u00fckledi\u011fi vazife ve sorumluluklar, e\u015fler aras\u0131nda iyi bir m\u00fcnasebet ve ge\u00e7im i\u00e7in dikkat edilmesi gereken hususlar, \u00e7ocuk yeti\u015ftirme ve terbiye usulleri, evlilikte kar\u015f\u0131la\u015f\u0131lan baz\u0131 s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131 ve me\u015fakkatlere katlanman\u0131n Allah indindeki k\u0131ymet ve yeri, bo\u015fanman\u0131n her iki taraf ve \u00e7ocuklar i\u00e7in nas\u0131l bir \u00e2fet, nas\u0131l bir bela oldu\u011fu\u2026 gibi hususlar ilim ve ya\u015fanm\u0131\u015f tecr\u00fcbelerin \u0131\u015f\u0131\u011f\u0131 alt\u0131nda evlenecek gen\u00e7lere anlat\u0131l\u0131p \u00f6\u011fretilebilir. Evet, \u00f6nce anne babalar yeti\u015ftirilmelidir ki, onlar da \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131 birer emanet kabul etsinler ve onlar\u0131n iyi yeti\u015fmeleri i\u00e7in gerekenleri yerine getirsinler.<\/p>\n

-\u00c7ocuklar i\u00e7in meseleyi hep rec\u00e2 \u00f6ncelikli g\u00f6t\u00fcrmek gerekir. Ger\u00e7i, onlar da havftan tamamen az\u00e2de tutulmamal\u0131d\u0131rlar, \u00e7ocuklar da k\u00f6t\u00fclerin cezaland\u0131r\u0131laca\u011f\u0131n\u0131n fark\u0131na vard\u0131r\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131rlar. Fakat, bu onlar\u0131n ruh d\u00fcnyalar\u0131nda derin yaralar\u0131n a\u00e7\u0131lmas\u0131na sebebiyet vermemelidir. \u0130yi kimselerin mutlaka huzura ereceklerine inanan \u00e7ocuklara k\u00f6t\u00fclerin de cezas\u0131z kalmayaca\u011f\u0131 anlat\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131r. Ancak bu esnada, mevzuyu hem kendileri hem de yak\u0131nlar\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan in\u015firah verici bir \u015fekilde alg\u0131lamalar\u0131na ve i\u00e7lerinde bir burukluk ya\u015famamalar\u0131na da dikkat edilmelidir. Evet, onlara, Z\u00e2t-\u0131 Uluhiyetin rahmetinin enginli\u011finden bahsedilmeli; \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n \u00f6tede ilah\u00ee iltifata mazhar olacaklar\u0131ndan, yeni a\u00e7m\u0131\u015f g\u00fcller gibi annelerinin kuca\u011f\u0131nda \u00f6p\u00fcl\u00fcp koklanacaklar\u0131ndan, Cennet a\u011fa\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131nda kumrular misali \u015fak\u0131y\u0131p duracaklar\u0131ndan dem vurulmal\u0131; onlar\u0131n Allah\u2019a kar\u015f\u0131 sevgi hisleri s\u00fcrekli harekete ge\u00e7irilmeli ve b\u00f6ylece \u00e7ocuklarda \u015fuuralt\u0131 m\u00fcktesebat\u0131n olu\u015fmas\u0131 sa\u011flanmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

-Hazreti \u00dcstad, \u201cGayr-\u0131 me\u015fru bir muhabbetin neticesi, merhametsiz bir azap \u00e7ekmektir.\u201d buyuruyor. Evet, ister \u00e7ocu\u011funa isterse de ba\u015fka mahbuplara haddinden fazla al\u00e2ka g\u00f6sterenler i\u00e7in de b\u00f6yle bir su-i ak\u0131bet s\u00f6z konusudur; onlar\u0131n da maksatlar\u0131n\u0131n aksiyle tokat yemelerinden ve \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n\/sevdiklerinin onlardan nefret etmelerinden korkulur. Bu a\u00e7\u0131dan, dostlar\u0131n\u0131za fevkal\u00e2de makamlar verip onlar\u0131 \u015fi\u015firece\u011finize, m\u00fcbala\u011falarla onlar\u0131n boyunlar\u0131n\u0131 k\u0131raca\u011f\u0131n\u0131za ve ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 da k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131\u011fa sevkedece\u011finize, onlara kar\u015f\u0131 fevkal\u00e2de sad\u00e2kat g\u00f6sterip karde\u015fli\u011fin hakk\u0131n\u0131 verin. Unutmay\u0131n ki; kat\u2019\u00ee bilgisi olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 halde m\u00fcbala\u011falara girip falancaya \u201cmehd\u00ee\u201d diyenler, filancay\u0131 \u201cm\u00fcceddid\u201d ilan edenler, genellikle bu abartmalar\u0131n\u0131n cezas\u0131 olarak, g\u00fcn gelip de ona \u201cdeccal\u201d demeden, \u00f6b\u00fcr\u00fcn\u00fc \u201cf\u00e2s\u0131k\u201d g\u00f6rmeden, di\u011ferinin nifak \u00fczere oldu\u011funu s\u00f6ylemeden \u00f6lmezler.
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