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\u0130nsan, “Benim kusurlar\u0131mdan dolay\u0131 evlatlar\u0131ma, aileme ve topluma musibet gelmesin” \u00a0deyip yalvarmakla i\u015fe ba\u015flamal\u0131. Ba\u015flamal\u0131 bir yerden, Sultan\u2019a sessiz koylarda el a\u00e7acak \u015fekilde…<\/p>\n

Zaman \u00e7ok h\u0131zl\u0131 deveran ediyor. Bug\u00fcn bebeklik hallerini sevip \u00e7ok ho\u015f vakitler ge\u00e7irirken bir de bakar\u0131z ki, b\u00fcy\u00fcm\u00fc\u015f okul \u00e7a\u011f\u0131na gelmi\u015f k\u0131z\u0131m\u0131z, o\u011flumuz. B\u00fcy\u00fcr, b\u00fcy\u00fcr ama eskilerin “dedi\u011fi gibi \u00e7ocuklar dertleri ile b\u00fcy\u00fcr”. Baba, anne olarak \u00a0d\u00fcnyalar\u0131na \u00a0girmedi\u011fimizden\u00a0onlardan uzakla\u015f\u0131r\u0131z da hi\u00e7 fark edemeyiz.<\/p>\n

\u00d6yle bir d\u00f6nemi idrak ediyoruz ki, bilgi ve ileti\u015fim akl\u0131 hayrette b\u0131rakacak kadar h\u0131zl\u0131 ve etkili \u015fekilde yol al\u0131yor. Bundan en \u00e7ok istifade eden de \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z ve onlar\u0131 kendi hallerinde b\u0131rak\u0131p terbiye ve ahlak ad\u0131na vermemiz gerekeni veremezsek beklemeyelim ne sayg\u0131 ne de sevgi.<\/p>\n

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Bir kere “\u00e7ocuktur, daha sonra \u00f6\u011frenir, yapar” gibi \u00f6telemelere kesinlikle girmeden her ya\u015fta almas\u0131 gereken de\u011ferleri zaman\u0131nda vermek borcumuzdur, onlar\u0131n da haklar\u0131d\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc kadimden beri toplumun temeli\u00a0aile ile at\u0131l\u0131r.<\/h4>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Aile kurmak basite indirgenecek bir olgu de\u011fildir.Aile kurman\u0131n ne demek oldu\u011funu \u00e7ocuklara verilecek terbiyenin ne manaya geldi\u011fini evvela biz \u00f6\u011frenmeliyiz. Zira kendisini terbiye edemeyen birinin bir ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131 terbiye etmesi m\u00fcmk\u00fcn de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n

\u00c7ocuk nas\u0131l yeti\u015ftirilir, her ya\u015f\u0131n laz\u0131m\u0131 nedir? Bunlar bilinmeden \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n terbiyesi ile ilgili \u00f6nemli ad\u0131mlar atabilmek \u00e7ok zordur.<\/p>\n

\u0130lk ad\u0131m olarak aile b\u00fcy\u00fcklerinden tevar\u00fcs eden \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fc ve adab kavranmal\u0131 ya\u015fay\u0131\u015f\u0131m\u0131zla onlara h\u00fcsn-\u00fc misal olmal\u0131 ve bu g\u00fczel gelene\u011fin\u00a0devam\u0131 sa\u011flanmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Anne ve baba olarak evlad\u0131n cismani sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 korumay\u0131, onun hastal\u0131klara d\u00fc\u00e7ar olmamas\u0131 i\u00e7in gerekenleri \u00f6\u011frenmeyi esas alarak g\u00f6sterdi\u011fimiz gayreti kadar ebedi alemini teminat alt\u0131na alma ad\u0131na onun manevi d\u00fcnyas\u0131n\u0131n sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 korumak i\u00e7in de ciddi gayret sarfetmeliyiz. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc d\u00fcnya hayat\u0131 ge\u00e7ici \u00f6teki alem ise ebedidir. Bizim i\u00e7in as\u0131l yurt oras\u0131d\u0131r. Zira bizler, sadece yolcu misali ula\u015faca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z yere giderken burada te\u015fehh\u00fcd miktar\u0131 bir a\u011fa\u00e7 alt\u0131nda dinlenen ki\u015filer mesabesindeyiz.<\/p>\n

Bu hakikati asla akl\u0131m\u0131zdan \u00e7\u0131karmadan hareket ederek, Mevlana misali bir aya\u011f\u0131m\u0131z sabit kadem bu \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fclerde, di\u011fer aya\u011f\u0131m\u0131z d\u00fcnya i\u015flerinde olacak \u015fekilde \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131za hakikati a\u015f\u0131lamal\u0131y\u0131z.<\/p>\n

Orada hesap vereceklerini, hak-hukuk yemeden g\u00fcven telkin etmeleri gerekti\u011fini, insan\u0131n de\u011ferli oldu\u011funu, kesinlikle yalan, emanete h\u0131yanet, s\u00f6z\u00fcnde durmama gibi nifak alametlerinden y\u0131landan ka\u00e7ar gibi ka\u00e7mas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini \u00f6\u011fretmeliyiz.<\/p>\n

\u0130dealist olmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini, ba\u015fkalar\u0131 i\u00e7in ya\u015faman\u0131n vicdan geni\u015fli\u011fi oldu\u011funu, Yaradan\u2019\u0131 ve Habibi\u2019ni her muhta\u00e7 sineye anlatman\u0131n kulluk borcu oldu\u011funu i\u015fleye i\u015fleye g\u00f6stererek anlatmal\u0131, temsil etmeliyiz.<\/p>\n

O her \u015feyi yoktan Yaradan Rabb\u2019imizin bizlerden neden raz\u0131 oldu\u011funu; bize Habib\u2019i vas\u0131tas\u0131yla g\u00f6nderdi\u011fi mektubu olan Kur\u2019an\u2019da anlatt\u0131\u011f\u0131 hakikatlerin ne oldu\u011funu didik didik ederek anlamam\u0131z gerekti\u011fini \u00f6\u011fretmeliyiz evlatlar\u0131m\u0131za.<\/p>\n

O\u2019nun kainat kitab\u0131n\u0131 okuma ad\u0131na ilim tahsil etmenin esas oldu\u011funu ve insanl\u0131\u011fa yararl\u0131 i\u015fler yapmak, \u00fcretmek ve \u00e7al\u0131\u015fkan bir varl\u0131k olmak gerekti\u011fini kendimiz ilim sahibi olma yolunda onlara g\u00f6stermeliyiz.<\/p>\n

Unutmamal\u0131y\u0131z ki, bu d\u00fcnyaya neden geldi\u011fimizi, bir kul oldu\u011fumuzu O\u2019na kullu\u011fun en b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck oldu\u011funu “hele k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fckt\u00fcr” demeden zaman\u0131nda vermedi\u011fimiz takdirde kaybedenlerden olaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 hat\u0131rdan \u00e7\u0131karmamal\u0131y\u0131z. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n d\u00fcnyas\u0131ndan uzak kalmamal\u0131y\u0131z. Zira \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n d\u00fcnyas\u0131 bizim d\u00fcnyam\u0131zd\u0131r. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n d\u00fcnyas\u0131na yabanc\u0131 olan insan, asl\u0131nda kendi de\u011ferler d\u00fcnyas\u0131na da yabanc\u0131 olan insand\u0131r. Bir g\u00fcn u\u00e7up gittiklerini ve mesafelerin \u00e7ok a\u00e7\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 fark ederiz, ama i\u015f i\u015ften ge\u00e7mi\u015f olur.<\/p>\n

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